You will always have to do things you don’t want to do in order to have the things you do want. Moving through things your lower personality “dislikes” in the moment is different than trying to force yourself to be someone you aren’t.

Things that block you from permitting yourself to step away from things that aren’t meant for you include comparison, shoulds, other people’s agendas, your own agenda, people-pleasing, concern about looking good, fear, doubt, worry, attachment to the past, and so on.

These reactive patterns cut you off from your wisdom and your ability to honor the difference between correct dislike and incorrect dislike. And you may have become so accustomed to tolerating unhelpful dislike that you refuse to experience the helpful kind. It may be time for a discomfort tolerance reversal.

You have gifts, talents, and passions that your body and spirit are always communicating to you. Your job is to make these the center of your life. You probably undervalue them because they feel easy. The next correct form of dislike you may experience is the discomfort that comes from learning to allow this to be your job.

What has your body already been telling you about what you should stop doing that it’s time to listen to?

Comes from knowing you have a true choice.

Health, wealth, love, and self-expression are your birthrights and are inevitable when you trust your Self to make the best choice right now and always.

If you've experienced your past self making “bad” choices, you can still start trusting your Self right now, because your Self always knows the best, most powerful, most loving, most human way to handle what is in front of you. Your highest Self is different than your lower personality’s self. Your highest Self never went anywhere; you probably didn’t know you could check in with it and let it guide you. Your lower personality self is good at convincing your mind that you are your past. And you are not your past. You are your Self. Which only exists right now.

What if you had a choice to be powerful? Who would you be today, and what would you do?

There are so many ways to be free. Your version of freedom in this moment will look different from someone else’s, and different than your version of freedom in the past. That is, inherently, the nature of freedom. You get to choose now.

To be liberated means you're free from what has bound you, and free to do or be the thing that is most powerful for you right now. Freedom can look like letting go of someone else’s rules, or it can look like loving yourself enough to adhere to a new level of discipline. Or it can be both. Only you can know, and you can only know for right now, right now.

Freedom doesn’t mean doing the easiest, laziest thing and acting with no concern for others. Your highest self takes all of what is most important into consideration naturally. To be liberated means letting yourself choose after you let go of your ideas about how it should be and trust yourself to do the best thing in the moment.

What does freedom look like for you right now? What is it time to be free from? And what is it time to be free to do?

Instead of sharing your concerns, share your commitments.

When we feel worried about something, we lower our frequency, which can hold us back from taking action on something important to us. And if we do take action, it is heavier and from that lower place. This isn’t bad or wrong; it will just create more of that energy.

When we choose to let our worries redirect us to our commitments, we can be lifted to a higher place and see things differently. We can see what it might be like if our commitment were fulfilled, and act from a place of wholeness rather than control.

Let your concern about hurting someone’s feelings transform into your commitment to co-creation. Let your concern about your finances transform into your commitment to wealth. Let your worry about the planet transform into your commitment to responsibility.

What commitment is it time to recognize so you can be light enough to go the distance?

You may not see the full abundance available to you because you resist the many ways it shows up, and you cannot receive when you resist.

Just look at how many ideas, people, thoughts, to-dos, shoulds, and even “problems” show up begging for your attention every day. It is an abundance! What if you shifted your perspective toward each of these things as all of life flowing right to you?

It could be that the very abundance you are looking for is already trying to knock down your door, yet you just haven’t been willing to open up and let it in.

What have you been resisting that you could choose to see as abundance instead?

The beautiful thing about the uncomfortable parts of being human is that they are always pointing us to more of the wonderful parts on the other side of doing our work.

“The work” of being human is always different, because to be human means to love, and love has so many facets. Sometimes love is confrontation. Sometimes love is letting it be. Sometimes love is play. Sometimes love is discipline. And the work of being human and doing the loving thing will always lead us to our next level of the good stuff.

So, where are you feeling the discomfort of resistance? Could doing the work of choosing the most human thing move you to a new level?

What if you didn’t need to wait for anything to get started? What if you didn’t need to wait for anything to be complete either?

Waiting is the energy of lack, whether it is waiting to be enough to start or waiting to be enough to be whole as you are. Allowing things to change, evolve, and happen outside your preferred timeline is non-negotiable, since you have no control over those things. You do, however, have control over releasing your old perceived limitations about what you deserve, are capable of, or what is possible in this moment. Your power emerges not only when you allow things to happen, but when you allow yourself to take action from a brand-new place of wholeness.

What would you do and who would you be if you didn’t have to wait?

All you really want is to love and be loved. And both are your responsibility.

And no, your responsibility is not to “get” yourself loved by others. It is to love yourself no matter what anyone else thinks about you, or even what you think about yourself.

And no, it’s not your responsibility to isolate yourself from the world and only spend time around people that you like. It's about truly loving and understanding the human condition.

Love begins only in one place: with you. And once you give it freely, you will see it and experience it everywhere.

What belief system is it time to let go of today that is keeping you from experiencing what you, at your essence, really want?

Executing a plan perfectly is not success. Deciding you will show up and make it work, no matter how it goes, is success.

We often use detours, breakdowns, and “failures” as excuses when they are really the set-ups for us to discover how creative Source and we are. We can make it happen even when it doesn’t happen the way we plan.

You messed up once? A hundred times? You still have the opportunity to make it a success from here.

What if your plan failing could make you even more successful?

What “have-to” or “should” are you letting force you into something that you aren’t actually bound to do?

Just because there will be consequences for not doing something doesn’t mean you have to do it. “Have to” takes your power away. Choosing to doesn’t always make the tension go away, and that’s ok because being willing to live in tension is how you fulfill your intention.

Where could you shift from “ I have to” to either “I choose to” or “choose not to”?

Joy comes from knowing your Self.

Your Self is happy, healthy, wealthy, and self-expressed. In this moment, you are those things if you are willing to let go of the “shoulds” that dull you. Knowing your Self and your innate imperfect perfection in this moment doesn’t mean you give up on getting “better”; it means you allow yourself to experience more of your Self, which knows how to embrace all the possibility in this moment and effortlessly inspire you into action.

Joy is available to you if you are willing to let go of the labels, roles, rules, fears, and worries that keep you resisting the moment. What if you let yourself say the thing, do the thing, dance, sing, create, try the thing, let go of the thing, jump up and down, be rejected, be accepted?

What joy could be waiting if you let yourself experience who you are on the other side of the shoulds?

Many of us find it obvious that arrogance is selfish and rooted in a power struggle.

It doesn’t seem so obvious that unworthiness or false humility are also selfish and rooted in a power struggle.

Your spiritual and human responsibility is to receive; to humble yourself before the eternal and open up to its blessings. To believe and argue that you don’t deserve all the health, wealth, love, and self-expression available to anyone else is a way of making life about you, your flaws, and the problem you are. You can't be a blessing when you're a drain because of how you relate to yourself. You block the flow of universal brilliance coming through you, let alone to you, when you victimize yourself as less than.

Your personal power activates when you have no neediness of power over someone or validation from anyone. Your personal power comes from your contribution, and there can be no difference between giving and receiving. You can empower others and the world only to the degree you allow yourself to deserve what Source wants to give you.

What if you owned that deserving was not selfish, but actually your responsibility?

Spend time with your death every day.

Bring it in close. Let its inevitable finality help you see what your life is really for.

Imagine yourself, at the end of your life, saying “I wish i had ___________.” and fill in the blank. Imagine yourself saying “I wish i hadn’t ___________.” and fill in the blank.

Imagine what you will feel like at the time of your death if you change nothing in your life and keep living the way you have been. Imagine what you will feel like at that time if you make courageous choices every day in the direction of your heart’s desires.

The only guarantee is that you will face the end at some point. What if instead of avoiding it, you lovingly spent time with it every day? What would it have to show you?

Your next big leap in happiness, fulfillment, abundance, and contribution is only one action away. The thing is, your mind cannot know which action it is.

Hence, your only job is to stay in inspired action, not putting too much stock in any one choice, decision, or move. The decisions we stress deeply about and lose sleep over may not even be the ones that move the needle in the way we imagine. And in the same way, the little things we intuitively take action on without giving them a second thought could be the things that create the connections, opportunities, investments, or circumstances that position us to expand beyond what we have known.

This is why our imagination is more powerful than our knowledge. Imagine what a steady state of creative, out-of-the-box living would be like.

What are 10 things you could do today that might open up a new possibility? What is really stopping you from doing them?

Ensure your future by doubling down on you.

If you “create” by comparing yourself to others, copying others, keeping up with others, beating others, or anything else that has to do with anything besides loving and having empathy and compassion for others, you are pouring all of your energy into those “others.” This focus may give you momentary motivation, but ultimately it is a problem because you are putting your power in their hands. When they inevitably move on, change course, or lose their appeal to you, you will have no power left without them.

If you want to have a deep connection to your power in the future, which is where all of your freedom is, then double down on your unique perspective, gifts, instincts, and contribution. You are meant to be inspired by others and co-create with them, yet in co-creation, we are all meant to double down on ourselves. That is how we bring our true gifts to the table.

What if your greatest way to show up for others is to double down on yourself?

Time happens in the moment. When we try to make time for things when looking at a calendar, we often feel stressed.

Yet, when we are present in this moment, time is abundant. We have the freedom to choose how we focus our energy if we are willing to let this moment be free from the past, which it is. When we know we will make time for something, we can rest knowing it will happen without “trying.”

What if you stopped trying to make time for what matters and started letting it in right now?

Growing up is really about expanding beyond.

All emotional and spiritual maturity comes from deepening the understanding that while we will always feel and think what our mind labels as challenging feelings and thoughts, we don’t need to make them bad or wrong, or spend our energy resisting them or trying to make them go away. From there, we can choose to expand beyond those “problems” and choose how to create with and invest our energy right now, starting with what is most life-giving.

Growing up is only one part of it. Our job is to expand in all directions.

What if today, you could be the version of you that is free from the problem?

Referring to your stories about your past to discern what you are allowed to do today is limiting you.

Our lower personalities enjoy these limitations because they keep us “safe“ when really they just keep us stuck.

What would you love to focus on, leap towards, and allow in if you put your past in a safe with a lock and key?

As you become the new version of you, you are going to have to do a bunch of things that the old version of you didn’t like doing. Practice enjoying them even as you don’t enjoy them, because they are part of the beautiful process of becoming even more yourself.

What if you didn’t have to enjoy it to enjoy it?

If you are scared of things remaining the same as they have been, simply do something different. It will feel wildly uncomfortable, yet you will no longer be stuck in the fear. And stuck in the fear is the worst place to be. If it doesn’t work, do something else. Your biggest enemy is the part of you that wants to stay the same.

If you are not going to do something different, then release the fear and shift into acceptance, curiosity, and ultimately, love.

What if you remembered you have a choice, and took responsibility for that choice?