Life often feels impossible when our minds dwell on the future, but in reality, the only thing that truly exists is possibility. When we experience intensity, our minds convince us we've made the wrong choice by predicting what is going wrong and gripping for what could be going better. Yet in reality, we have no idea what the “right” or "wrong" choice is, or could have been. In this intensity, our job is to remember to find awe and wonder in the mystery of how our lives are actually unfolding.

Our job isn't to choose or manage it all perfectly. It's to experience the intensity of and letting things unfold and operate from a place of trust.

The only access to peace in this process is learning to focus on what's steady. And the practice of lovingly noticing what is unsteady is what connects us to what is steady. The loving observer in us understands that everything is always changing, and this understanding connects us to the steady Truth within us.

When life feels too hard, the mind is thinking too far ahead. When intensity feels like proof you're off track, the mind is trying to know what it cannot know. You will know everything you need to know when you need to know.

What if you returned to what's steady instead?

Ease comes from trusting yourself to handle what matters.

The mind loves to believe that peace is on the other side of getting everything done and getting it done perfectly, yet actual steadiness comes from allowing most things to be left unattended. A key to this is cultivating the skill of appreciating ourselves for focusing on what is essential, because most other people won’t appreciate us for that. If we seek validation from others, we won’t handle what is most important to us.

Being at ease amid many demands from other people, places, and things is a practice we can deepen that comes from clarity about our priorities and the courage to let go of our perceived control. This shift in our focus transforms busyness into flow.

What if instead of feeling pulled apart, you could feel present and at ease?

Living from a space of contentment is one of the most profound skills we can cultivate, especially because we never truly know when an ending will come. In fact, every moment is a kind of ending, even if we don’t realize it. Whether it’s the end of a day, the close of a chapter, or the final moments of our lives, we often don’t get to choose the timing. If we’re always waiting for things to be perfect, we risk meeting those endings with regret. The ultimate freedom is being able to say, “Things are imperfect, and yet I am whole, complete, and willing to let go.”

When we learn to be content in the midst of imperfection, we access a deep sense of ease. This isn’t about complacency; it’s about embracing life as it is, so we can make wise, present-minded choices. Our fulfillment lies in that acceptance—knowing that even as things end, we are at peace with the beauty and the imperfection of it all.

Where is it time to practice letting things be perfectly imperfect so you can be content now and at the end?

Want to speed up your progress? Get uncomfortable as fast as you can.

your work is to learn the art of stepping into the unknown and feeling the intense body sensations that come with it. When you let yourself stumble, wobble, and feel the rush of confusion or the heat of failure, you’re on the right track. Evolving in real time is a great idea in theory, but it feels very different in practice. Most people avoid this work because it’s uncomfortable, and these are the very sensations we must learn to celebrate. They are proof that we’re evolving in real time, and that’s where what looks like magic happens.

Instead of aiming for comfort, aim to get good at feeling sensations and moving through them. It’s the real work most people avoid, and it’s the work that makes you unstoppable. When you welcome the discomfort, you can do anything.

Where in your life today can you lean into newness and celebrate the learning that comes with it?

Growth is supposed to be uncomfortable.

Not just physically, but mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. So, when you are moving into something new, expect lots of sensations, thoughts, and feelings to come up and don’t let them scare you. These are all a part of the process so welcome them with open arms.

What if you didn’t need the signs of aliveness to go away to trust your path?

Most of us chase outcomes, hoping to arrive at a feeling. We work toward the promotion to feel valued, pursue the relationship to feel loved, or build the business to feel fulfilled. We postpone the very experience we're seeking until some future moment when the imaginary “right” circumstances align.

The real discipline is simpler and more immediate: connect to the feeling now. Wealth, acceptance, health, and love are like radio stations we can tune into. They are already there if we attune ourselves to them. From this frequency, we can choose to create our lives from a place of wholeness, rather than a place of “not yet enough”.

The outcome we have in mind may or may not deliver what we're really after, but our choice in this moment can—right now. When we understand our true "why," we discover we don't have to wait for permission or circumstance to feel the way we want to feel. The real outcome lives in the process, not in the achievement.

What feeling are you really after, and how could you connect to it now?

The urge to return to "the way things were" is a signal you are facing the wrong direction. By spending your energy trying to recreate what was, you miss out on all possibilities. You essentially become the archaeologist of your life rather than the architect of your life.

Going back isn't possible. The job that ended, the relationship that shifted, the version of yourself that existed years before doesn’t exist anymore. Circumstances have changed, and everything and everyone have evolved. Nothing stays the same, and nothing can be recreated to be the way it once was.

What feels like going backward is simply wasting your energy resisting everything that is flowing forward. Moving forward with that flow becomes effortless if you are willing to turn to face the correct direction. Universal law helps us build momentum with each step and possibility with each choice. The path ahead is the only path that exists, and it's been waiting steadfastly to lead you where you are meant to go.

What would become possible if you stopped trying to return to what was and allowed yourself to be led towards what can be?

There's an unhelpful irony in how we respond to life's pressures: the moment we feel stretched beyond our limits, we react and cut away the very things that support us most deeply. When our calendars overflow and our to-do lists grow beyond what we can handle, we're quick to believe we don’t have time for what matters most. And this is not just the things that we do to take care of ourselves. We stop doing the things that contribute most to others. We tell ourselves we're being practical, making space for what's urgent, but what we're really doing is starving ourselves and others of value. We eliminate the things that make life human and fulfilling.

This reaction can be a profound signal: we have the choice to get creative about what we're willing to release instead. What if, when overwhelm strikes, we asked ourselves not "What do I need to sacrifice?” but "What do I think I have to do that I don’t actually have to do that I can let go of to make space for what is powerful?" Perhaps we could allow something to be imperfect, ask for help, hire someone, change our minds about a commitment we’ve made, or even realize that something we have been treating as our problem is, in fact, not our problem.

Wisdom loves to help us get creative in how we keep the most essential sources of our contribution at the forefront of our lives. In making this creativity a constant practice—a gentle, ongoing audit of our energy and attention, we discover that fulfillment isn't about doing more or having more, but doing only what serves what truly matters to us and letting go of assumed have-to’s.

Where is it time to get creative about how to let go of something so you can have more of what serves all of us?

Here's what I've noticed: Some of us follow every rule to feel worthy. Others rebel against them for the same reason.

The rule-followers judge the rule-breakers. The rule-breakers judge the rule-followers. We make others wrong because it temporarily makes us feel right.

Yet life opens up when we catch ourselves in this dance. When we notice how desperately we're trying to prove our worth by what we do or don't do, by monitoring what others do or don't do.

The truth is, we're all just trying to feel okay about ourselves.

Once you see this pattern, you have a choice. You can keep playing the validation game, or you can do the uncomfortable, more rewarding work of resting in your worth from within. Not from following someone else's rules, nor from rebelling against them.

From this grounded place, you're free to choose what serves you and others best, rather than letting fear or the need to be right run the show.

Where might it be time to let go of someone else's rules and discover what's truly best for you?

People often think they resonate with someone because of their success, but that is rarely the reason. What truly creates connection is the willingness to be seen in “failure.”

We admire strength, but we connect through struggle, and struggle is what creates strength. The resonance does not come from perfection—it comes from someone’s courage to keep going and to tell the truth about where they’ve been.

What if the thing you’ve been yearning for but haven been able to put your finger on is the resilience that’s born through not having it go your way?

Prioritizing the most important thing, which is usually the thing with the most critical problems, makes everything else easier.

If the most important thing has unresolved issues, it will seep into every area of your life and make it all harder.

Sometimes, prioritizing what is essential feels too time-consuming, but it always gives you your time back in the long run.

What is it time to invest your attention into now to make the correct space for everything else down the line?  It might not be what you think. 

You have been tricked into believing you need to do something with every thought you have, and that you can rest once your thoughts are all positive, peaceful, and validating.

Your true power comes from knowing none of your thoughts are the “truth” and being incredibly selective about the ones you value and prioritize.

What might happen if you shift your attention to doing nothing with most thoughts instead of believing and managing them? 

Your job is to know who you are- to know what you value and to trust yourself to act from those values.

When you know who you are, you don’t need anyone else to know who you are.

What if your confidence came from demonstrating your values to yourself over time? 

We reject ourselves and others for being imperfect, when it is this imperfection that makes us human.

Humanity is a PhD in unconditional love if we let it be. This is the gift of our lives- to feel compassion, empathy, and connection. This doesn’t mean we give ourselves a free pass to abdicate our responsibilities; it means we embrace the grace that can help us progress as a species.

What if instead of rejecting ourselves and one another, we protected ourselves and one another with unconditional love?

If you feel like you love people more than they love you, that's okay. It likely means you've done more work to love yourself than they have.

Just as we can only love others as much as we love ourselves, others can only love us as much as they love themselves.

What if it wasn't that they didn't love you? What if they're still learning to love themselves?

Rarity doesn't equal value.

We tell ourselves that achieving something difficult or rare will make us valuable. But our worth isn't tied to what we get— it's already there, waiting to be remembered. And often, we only remember this after we have sacrificed so much to get somewhere we didn’t need to go.

If you're going to chase something rare, make sure it's actually worth your time. Want it if you choose, but remember: you don't need it to be enough.

What if you chose from a place of contribution rather than from a place of proving?

Having a purpose doesn’t make problems go away; it draws them in. And this is a good thing.

As you work toward a vision or a mission, the most important thing you will deal with is the obstacles that prevent that vision from already being a reality. The beauty of working toward a bigger, chosen purpose is that you get to work on bigger, chosen problems. Not meaning you get to choose precisely what issues arise, but meaning the solutions you work on are a part of your fulfillment and the fulfillment of your mission.

There would be no mission necessary if there were no problems. For right now, where we are in our evolution, embracing the problems is the path.

How could loving your mission help you appreciate problems more?

You need to love your mission and your purpose (if you want to be happy).

What you do will change. What you are working for doesn’t need to.

What if you gave up needing to love the doing, and focused on loving what you are doing it for?

People don’t need fixing, they need love.

Especially when it feels like you need to solve something for someone by erasing their unerasable discomfort, consider choosing to love them instead. Maybe they don’t need to know that everything is ok. Perhaps they don’t need to know how wrong you think they are or how they could do it better. Your need to fix is about you, not about them.

Consider that they don’t need advice, correction, or new information. To truly serve, what would happen if you said “I love you” instead?

There will absolutely always be reasons not to do what your heart wants. They aren’t the truth, though- they are only reasons, which are just ideas.

Life is short, and then all the reasons and ideas that filled it disappear.

What would you focus on and how would you show up today if all of your reasons weren’t the truth?