Let go of agreement

Let people disagree with you, because most of them will. There are 8 billion people out there, in addition to you, and each has a different life experience, unique situation, and perspective. The odds that most of them would agree with you are basically nonexistent.

We exhaust ourselves trying to convince people that we are right or trying to get people to see things our way. Or, we exhaust ourselves by holding back out of the fear that people won’t agree. Yet this focus on agreement doesn’t create connection.

Instead of believing that others agreeing with you is success, try believing that providing people with a starting point for a conversation is success. Even better, take responsibility for staying open so a conversation can actually happen. Real co-creation requires us to be willing to change our minds, not just to try to change theirs.

After all, what are the odds that out of 8 billion people, you are the only one who is right? When we grip our rightness that tightly, we lose access to learning, connection, and growth.

What would open up if you stopped going for agreement?