The space of uncertainty
Uncertainty is neutral at least and ideal at best. Possibility only lives in uncertainty. However, we have been taught to fill the space of uncertainty with doubt and worry.
Uncertainty is a space and we get to choose what we fill it with. Hope, faith, patience, and resilience will serve you better than what’s become most habitual.
As you feel the tension of uncertainty again and again, because it’s always present, go straight to that space and choose faith in yourself. Faith will lead you to the right, and even joyful, action.
When to modify
What if you gave yourself permission only to modify (the plan, the yoga pose, the goal) based on awareness, and not on doubt?
What would become available to you if you used your body and wisdom to help you discern the difference between doubt and self-awareness?
Doubt will never help you reach your potential. Loving awareness will.
Discovering and knowing
“Not knowing” from a place of curiosity is fantastic and essential. When someone is pressuring you to know, or you are pressuring yourself to know, declare that you are in a time of active discovery. Discovery is not idle; it is an act or a process. You aren’t doing nothing; you are discovering.
On the other hand, avoiding action and focusing when we know is entirely different. When you know, go, and go for it. The fuel behind knowing is total commitment.
When you know, go. When you don’t know, consciously discover.
It’s about shifting not staying
It is not an empowering goal to be clear and connected all of the time because it is impossible.
A more exciting and valuable goal could be to get great at noticing when you are unclear and doing the work to get there. This practice is more valuable because it is more practical and because your most important and most energy-intensive purpose is to be yourself, which you can only do when you aren’t judging someone else or processing someone else’s judgment. And you can interchange the word judgment for many other things.
Having the discipline to return to yourself, especially when it seems others aren’t being personally responsible, is the work. That’s why forgiveness is so powerful.
Purpose needs space
People will always disagree, have a different perspective, or not get it. Your job is not to gain their approval to continue down your path. If you spend energy trying to convince, you will be distracted and not make it very far down your way.
Being open to useful feedback is different than waiting for permission or agreement. Your purpose needs you to stop engaging with distractions, so it has the space to be felt and expressed by you and others.
The same goes for others; you don’t need to understand their purpose, and your judgment and opinions can be damaging too. Our work is to give space to one another’s purpose and learn to give useful feedback as needed.
Fluid > Rigid
We are taught incorrectly that the way to succeed is to be rigid. However, this doesn’t work out in the long run because life is fluid, especially as you put more on your plate.
You didn’t fail just because it didn’t go as planned. Please don’t give up because life surprised you; it always will.
Stay committed by staying fluid.
Action sets you free
You are not stuck. You might feel stuck, and you are not stuck.
Your nature is freedom. Your access to your essence is action aligned with your higher purpose. So go right to where you feel stuck and get a sense of what there is to do that would allow you to move forward. Then be courageous and do the thing.
The truth will set you free. The truth involves your correct action.
What’s your body telling you?
Your body is your key to creating a life that feels aligned with your source and purpose. That’s what your body does, it feels.
Unuseful stress and unfulfillment arise when you make plans without consulting your body or you override or ignore what it is telling (and often yelling) you.
What might happen if you surrendered to the wisdom of your body? Especially where it feels the most inconvenient?
Say something new
A simple reminder that in order to create something new, you have to say something new.
If saying the new thing feels uncomfortable, that’s only because it’s new. What’s new and uncomfortable eventually becomes familiar and comfortable.
Today is the day to love the discomfort and start some new conversations.
One thing you definitely cannot change
Is another person. Especially through trying to force them To change. If you try to force them, they will almost certainly react by resisting right back. People only change when they make new choices, and no one else can choose except them.
Trying to change people is not love. Holding space for them, seeing them as capable, and supporting their own unpredictable journey of growth is love.
If they never want to make new choices, that’s their choice. You get to decide how close or how far you keep them while you love them.
Embrace what others won’t
In order to contribute and have the extraordinary, you will need to embrace what most folks resist.
Problems, doubt, and discomfort are an integral part of forward movement. It’s your job to create solutions, expand your creativity, and grow stronger. You can only have the latter when you’re willing to start with the former.
Embrace what you’ve been taught to resist and see what changes.
Whole strength
One essential aspect of strength is the willingness and discipline to take bold action, make bold requests, set clear boundaries, and have the tenacity to go for it and get it done.
The other side of true strength is the willingness and discipline to have compassion, listen with humility, and commit to love and generosity as a pathway to contributing to the world.
Well-rounded, sustainable strength requires both sides. So which expression is it time for you to focus on developing today?
The whole truth
The circumstance you are dealing with is part of the truth, and it doesn’t have to stop you.
The whole truth includes that you are a limitless, creative being with untapped creative potential and success waiting to be discovered and activated.
The situation may not be what you consider ideal, and you are more capable and brilliant than your mind can understand.
The ultimate practice
When you feel the energy of the moment, and you feel pulled to judge or take it personally, could you instead notice what you don’t like about the behavior and use that awareness to help you realize who you want to be even more?
Sometimes someone else’s reaction can be our most outstanding teacher in how we want to respond in our lives.
It doesn’t need to make sense to anyone else
In fact, it can’t. To sense means to feel. And you are the only one who can feel and know what’s right for you. It doesn’t need to make sense to anyone else. Only you.
What if things are getting better?
If we let the evidence we see in the outside world influence us too much, we lose possibility and imagination, which are essential in solving the problems we need to solve. Resignation is the enemy, not faith.
Even though it might look like things are getting worse, what actions would you see to take if you knew it was getting better and that you were the one to help move it in that direction?
Bring it up and out
Your superpower is your choice, and your tool is your language. Speaking into supportive listening amplifies your superpower and your tool.
If you feel blocked in taking your next steps or seeing your next steps, find the right person or people to listen and hold space for you. Bring out into the light, bring some curiosity, and you will see down the path.
Doing the scary stuff
When fear tries to complicate things for you and keep you stuck in hesitation, make the choice to keep fear simple.
Notice fear, and instead of entertaining it and expanding its power by engaging with it, take quick action in the direction of your growth so you can redirect your energy back to the beautiful things that you’re doing all the scary stuff for.
Put yourself out there
The creative forces of our world respond to daily action because they operate on expansion.
When you make a decision to expand in an area of your life, the most essential practice is to put yourself out there. As you share yourself, ideas, and questions with the world, you will inevitably encounter bumps in the road, failures, and judgment. These uncomfortable experiences are integral to your growth as they help you become resilient and steadfast and can even teach you how to have fun regardless of the outcome.
Your expansion is not situational. It’s a decision you make that you support with your actions, no matter what.
Yes they can
We help others more when we see possibilities for them instead of seeing failure.
People will often rise to the occasion when we see them as capable, and seeing them as capable helps us give them the proper support.
All of the above also goes for our relationship with ourselves.