Value your values to find connection

When we value our values and lead with them, we find the correct people in our lives.

Some people will try to come closer to you because of how they perceive your accomplishments, role, or status, yet they won't hold the same values as you, so the connection might not stick. This is not only okay, but it is optimal. The people who share your values will be the ones with whom connection thrives naturally. The right people aren't attracted to your carefully curated image, but to your integrity and the alignment between what you say and how you live. Many people will only be able to say things and not live them. Valuing our values means we live them. We live them imperfectly, yet we recommit and do our best to clean up messes when we need to.

When we stop compromising our values to fit in or be liked, we naturally attract people who resonate with who we truly are, with whom we can be ourselves, and with whom we can co-create. Unaligned people fall away when we value our values. While this can feel lonely at first, it's actually the path to real connection. Our people can’t sense us out while we are pretending to be someone else.

What would shift in your relationships if you did the courageous work of valuing your values?