Your relationships are not about you

The secret to fulfilling relationships? Make them about the other person. Not to because you don’t matter, but because you do. Not to disappear, not to please—but to show up with curiosity and love. When we stop trying to be the center by being impressive, interesting, or even the victim, we free up our energy to serve. We hear more. We begin to feel empathy, compassion, and a sense of wonder. We feel more connected. As always, it’s a paradox: the more we give, the more we receive.

However, this isn’t about placating or pretending. True service isn’t soft or fake. It’s authentic, honest, and clear- all while being loving. Service is about bringing ease and openness when it feels uncomfortable and demonstrating the power of holding space. We have the power to be true to ourselves and shift the focus away from ourselves.

How might your sense of fulfillment in your relationships change if you made it about the other person?