At the end of our days and lives, it will be abandoning the most simple things that we regret.

Our daily dose of sunlight and hugs. Extending compassion to ourselves and others. Saying no to distractions and yes to what is most life-giving. Time spent in silence or reflection. Nourishing foods. Movement.

The simple things that support us most sometimes feel like the most challenging to prioritize, and it’s okay that it feels challenging. As a whole, we are in a process of re-integrating and re-prioritizing the simple blessings that we let fall to the wayside in favor of the drama of the complex.

How could making room for the simple things that work help you be clearer, kinder, and more effective? Even if it feels hard. Even if just a little bit at a time.

You may be addicted to seeking our what’s wrong because it makes you feel right.

Feeling grateful is not only more fulfilling than feeling right, it’s more useful if you want to be your most clear and creative.

When you notice the pull to be right, practice focusing on feeling good instead.

We have been taught to see more as a measure of success. If we can have more, do more, and accomplish more, then we matter more. However, most of us have noticed that beyond a certain point, having more on our plates can make us miss out on the feelings of happiness we so deeply want.

What if success is the practice of having the perfect amount to experience what matters to you most? Maybe feeling presence, fulfillment, creativity, contribution, gratitude, happiness, or joy is just as valuable, or even more valuable, than trying to achieve an åun-achievable end goal of “more.” If more is always the goal, you will never have enough.

Ironically, there is always more presence, gratitude, joy, and all the other good stuff available. However, this is only the case when we stop making more for the sake of more our context for life.

Question what the mainstream says about success so you can feel successful.

The more comfortable you get with change, the more consistent you can feel.

Suppose your happiness relies on things staying the same. In that case, you will avoid courageous conversations and sweat-inducing self-expression, allowing yourself and others to grow and move forward. And when you avoid these things, you also avoid possibility.

When you truly decide to step into the leadership role in your own life, your only choice is to surrender to change. And when you do, it is pretty freeing. You no longer need to spend energy keeping the status quo in place.

Instead, since change is always happening, you can enjoy spending your energy on discovering how to respond to a change in ways that help you, and others experience more love. You can learn to live with clarity and contentment as your baseline to navigate challenges with ease and faith rather than struggle and doubt. Steadiness is yours when you no longer need things to stay the same.

As you expand your peace practice and feel how much it connects to your wholeness, you may upgrade from accepting change to seeking it out.

Knowing what you want is one thing, and then there is the discipline of having the structures you need to have what you want.

What new support do you sense you need to have what you want? It probably feels inconvenient, and that’s why it doesn’t exist yet. So go ahead and create it.

As human beings, we aren’t so good at reality. Our gift is our imagination, and it can also be a curse.

When you notice yourself imagining failure, you have the power to flip to a picture of success to make things easier. Whichever picture you hold in your mind creates your next actions, not reality.

Use your imagination intentionally so it doesn’t use you.

It could be way easier than you think.

The weight of the new and unknown are what feel heavy, not your inability. Your courageous actions are what will unlock your creativity and make it light.

Time makes the unknown feel heavier, so why not get to it right now?

We know we are happiest when we are curious, loving, non-defensive, and open with others. So why do we undermine our happiness by becoming opinionated, judgmental, defensive, and closed?

The answer is likely our fear. Our fear is trying to keep us alive, yet most of the time, we aren’t in danger of losing our lives. Each of our jobs in our collective human evolution is to notice when outdated, unnecessary fear keeps us from relaxing into our wisest, most relaxed, most content, collaborative selves and use our resources to shift into love.

You know how to optimize your life for happiness. You are not the fear that undermines your intentions; you have a choice. Take some deep breaths. Listen to your favorite song. Get yourself outside. Forgive yourself and others and begin again. 

Possibility is the prerequisite for true choice. If you have to avoid something because there is no possibility there, your fear is trapping you, and you don’t have all your options available. 

Living a life of possibility requires seeking out possibilities in the uncomfortable. If you only consider things that feel comfortable as viable options, you will never have the opportunity to express or receive at your highest potential. You certainly do not have to choose the most uncomfortable option, and the most uncomfortable certainly isn’t always the best option based on what your intention is, yet being able to see what might be available to you if you were willing to trust yourself and the process will open up your life in ways you could never predict.

By becoming a leader of your life rather than a reactor to life as if it were an outside force, you are taking on the responsibility of being the one to navigate obstacles as they reveal themselves. Responsibility is a blessing because it is the only way to develop into the most beautiful, multi-dimensional versions of ourselves. 

The essence of responsibility is to be someone who looks for opportunities, especially when it feels like things shouldn’t be the way they are. So instead of wishing it weren’t happening, ask yourself who you will get to become in the process. 

Resilient, strong, open, creative, compassionate, unstoppable, committed, loving, courageous, healthy, and curious are some facets of your most whole, expressed self. So allow the surprises of life to polish you so you can shine. 

Or are you checking it off the list?

Are you meditating, or are you just sitting there?

Are you creating relationships, or are you just interacting?

Are you allowing your creativity to reveal itself, or are you rushing to get it off your plate?

Are you prioritizing your family, or are you just worrying about them?

Are you taking the actions to create a new habit, or are you wishing for change?

Are you inhabiting and enjoying your body, or are you trying to control it?

We benefit from our actions when we are fully present in the process and the moment. So it’s time to use your precious energy to really live rather than checking your life off the list. What will that take for you?

Creating a more connected, human culture in your organization, family, or community takes asking the right questions and listening for the most authentic answers.

In general, people aren’t used to being asked meaningful questions from a space of genuine curiosity. The unfamiliarity of such an invitation may cause surface-level responses at first. Your job is to create trustworthy spaces and relationships where people can learn to show up and relax over time. 

As you commit to making long-term change, demonstrating consistency is critical. Show up daily with wonder and faith in yourself, others, and the process. Things can change when you finally become brave enough to discover how they are. 

If you are fixated on something to punish yourself or “fix” something about you, the results won’t likely lead to a happier, healthier life.

So, is it making you happier and healthier, truly? Likely, the things that make you truly healthier will also make you happier. It’s also likely that the things that make you authentically happy will also make you healthier.

It could be that the quality of your life is measured by how joyful and vibrant you feel while living it. Love yourself enough to let these two “metrics” be what guide you.

The thing that is usually blocking us from moving forward with ease in our relationships with ourselves and others is compassion.

When we find ourselves frustrated, judgmental, resistant, angry, reactivated, or resigned, we can use compassion to help us clear the dirt of our lenses and see the truth of our humanity.

Harboring the ill will never help us become whole. Compassion can help us understand.

People need to get their needs met to feel fulfilled. This includes the ability to express themselves fully.

Sometimes, one of the best ways you can help the people you love the most is by encouraging them to find other people to express themselves to or with, either in addition to you or instead of you. This is because we are all so dynamic and need different types of listening to thrive.

You don’t need to be the only person for anyone.

And it’s likely not the best one.

Losing yourself to worry, anxiety, or blame often feels tempting because it allows us to step into a victim mentality, which feels like a safe place because we don’t need to take responsibility when we view ourselves as the victim.

However, learning to own your responsibility (or respond-ability) is like learning to love sleeping as you grow up. The alternative may seem way more exciting initially, but you feel much better in the long run if you choose peace. And not only do you feel better, but you are also clearer, more effective, and more creative.

If you notice the appearance of problems pulling you towards drama, practice loving yourself and your long-term wellness enough to trust yourself and the process instead.

One of the best ways to learn is through the decisions we would have made differently in retrospect. For example, we may notice upon reflection that our gut was telling us something different, and we overrode it or didn’t take the time to consider all the essential factors. These are different from our choices that we deeply know were the correct moves, yet they turn out differently than we planned.

When we acknowledge that we didn’t do our best to make a choice, we have the opportunity to learn a new lesson that no one can take away from us. This embodied lesson can help us avoid a similar future misstep and trust ourselves more. We mustn’t beat ourselves up for slipping up, not only because we all do it, but because self-deprecation takes the learning away, potentially encouraging us to make a similar mistake again. Additionally, even when we are left with the impact of what feels like a poor choice, connections, and blessings have inevitably come with it. Chance happenings that change our lives for the better would have never come to pass without our lack of discernment.

At the end of our days and lives, grace is the answer. It can help us learn from the past and appreciate the surprise gifts we have received.

One of the moat important reasons to know what resonates with you is that if it resonates with you, it will likely resonate with someone else.

So often we miss our opportunity to make a difference through our work because we think about what someone else might appreciate, versus what hits home with us. When we produce based on guessing, the result is almost always missing the magic. When we feel for what is enlivening to us, we generate from a place of energy, vastly increasing the likelihood someone else will feel touched as well.

Nothing you create will ever resonate with everyone. However, if you want it to vibe with someone, make sure it’s moving yo you.

Your resentment will ruin your success and unconditional love will amplify it.

True success is a personal experience, not an external accomplishment. Doing your inner work to create peace of mind is the only way to feel your success.

The obstacles that feel very, very real to you might only be made of doubt.

The good news is, whether it is your doubt, someone else’s doubt, or both, it’s just a perspective, not the whole reality. What if you tried looking at things from the perspective of faith or someone who believes in you?

Your reality changes based on your perspective. Choose a useful one.