How do I expand beyond it?

Instead of asking yourself how to “fix” your relationship to something, consider asking yourself how you expand beyond your identity in that relationship.

If you see yourself as having a problem with money, time, work, boundaries, a significant other, a child, politics, or anyone or anything, could you take a big step back and up and see yourself as way bigger than the bundle of personality quirks from your past that needs to be fixed? Could you instead inhabit a more expansive, observer version of your Self that can witness the experience and make a higher call?

What if you didn’t need to fix it? What if you allowed yourself to expand beyond it and need nothing from it? Who would be about it, and everything else, from that place?