Far too many of us were never taught to truly own our worth, to stand confidently in our value and take responsibility for ourselves. This leaves so many feeling insecure, constantly seeking somewhere to project those feelings. Often, they project their insecurity onto you, mistakenly believing that dimming your light will brighten theirs. Of course, it never does.

This behavior doesn’t make them bad—it simply robs them of their own power. Your role is to protect your own. When faced with someone else’s insecurity, your work is to stay anchored in your worth and your unique contribution, no matter what. This is no small task, yet it’s what ensures you hold onto your peace and continue serving others. Responding with love might even spark a shift in how someone else sees leadership. Likewise, notice when you’re tempted to project your own doubts onto a leader in your life. Gently bring your focus back to owning your energy and worth.

The more you step into service, the more you’ll encounter others’ insecurities. Don’t let it deter you. Let it be a reminder that you’re walking a courageous path.

Each of us holds the key to ease in our decision-making—if only we grant ourselves permission to unlock it. We’ve all stumbled, made mistakes, and carried regrets, but clinging to self-punishment or judgment of others keeps those missteps alive, weighing us down. Our liberation comes when we recognize the past and future for what they are: fleeting illusions. By releasing the guilt that comes with them and reclaiming our innocence, we open the door to creating anew with ease.

You already know what matters most to you in this moment. Don’t complicate by letting “shoulds” and “shouldn’ts” hold you back. This moment is an invitation for you to step into momentum, growth, and flow.

What might open up if you choose from a place of innocence rather than guilt?

Waiting to do things until you want to do them is an impossible strategy for living a happy life.

We must be willing to do the little things we don’t want to do to have the big things we want. 

If we want booming business, we need to make the scary sales call, whether we want to or not. If we want rewarding relationships, we need to be vulnerable and selfless, whether we want to or not. 

Where is it time to stop valuing the little wants and start valuing the big ones? 

When you fight with someone, you give them power. When you stand for something, you harness your own. You don’t need someone to agree with you to do your work. Waiting for agreement often means you will be waiting forever. 

Taking a stand is different than trying to win a fight with someone else who is also giving their power away. Stand for what is true for you and don’t waste your energy fighting. 

What if you used your stand to find ways to partner rather than prove?

While I prefer to be adored and loved, I am 100 percent okay with not being adored and loved. When I need to be liked, I do all sorts of things that make me not love and adore myself, and the most important person to love me is me, because I am the one who lives with me. 

When I release the need to be seen or treated in a certain way, I am able to see myself more clearly and do and be someone I want to celebrate. 

Where is it time to let go of others’ perception of you and focus on your own? 

We all want to be happy somehow, and we have different strategies for getting there because we all believe that different things will make us happy. 

Some people believe that having lots of money will make them happy, some believe that having lots of rest will make them happy, some believe that winning a fight will make them happy, and some believe that flying under the radar will make them happy. 

The truth is, everyone is simply making their best guess and doing what they believe works for them. We don’t have to agree with one another to understand that. 

What if you didn’t have to be right about what may or may not make someone else happy? Are you sure you even have it right for yourself?

People in your life rely on you for certain things- whether it is to take the trash out, provide great insight, or complain about your boss with them. It can feel very comfortable to continue to fit into the roles you have historically played for people, and it can often be valuable to continue to be reliable in these ways if they help us get where we want to go. However, it is with ensuring that the things people rely on you for are actually the things you want to be reliable for.

Opportunities present themselves to us based on the credibility we create for ourselves. Are you making yourself credible in ways that inspire you? Where might it be time to upgrade your reliability? 

Complexity and complication are overrated. If it can’t be said or done simply, people won’t likely hear or do it—you included.

Where do you need to make it simpler to be more powerful? Remember that simple can feel scary because responsibility and clarity are the essence of simplicity. 

The most important gap to learn to close is the one between the moment that you know something needs to be done and the moment you do it. 

This doesn’t mean we need to rush. If we genuinely don’t know or can’t know yet, we don’t need to make a move. However, if we want to contribute at our highest level and experience fulfillment at our highest level, we must take courageous, grateful action again and again. 

Look to a time when you knew something, yet didn’t take action for a long time. What made you hesitate, and what did you learn that could help you make the gap smaller next time? 

When you move towards what is true for you, some people may leave you. While sadness is an entirely appropriate response to loss, this loss is a healthy process. 

The good news is that the same truth that scares some off will be the exact thing that draws the correct, aligned people toward you. As you expand in your willingness and ability to be clear with your intentions and actions, the energy of the relationships and community you enjoy will only amplify.

What if you trusted your truth to lead you to your people? 

It is possible to be direct and make people uncomfortable while still loving them.

It is also possible that you can love someone, and they can react unlovingly in response. Your job in loving people through their discomfort is not to ensure that they respond kindly to you; it is to be a part of creating a new paradigm where we can listen and speak to one another without either person needing to become the victim. Part of your role in our human evolution is to learn to allow people to learn in their own time, and love them anyway. And we will all learn faster if we are clear and loving with one another.

Where might it be time for you to stop holding back so you can demonstrate non-attached loving clarity?

To experience having enough, we must release a belief in perfection.

As long as we think there is such a thing as being the perfect friend, spouse, boss, employee, or having the perfect amount of money, time, or approval from others, we will never be or have enough. The moment we can embrace our inherent, unavoidable imperfection as we work to be the best versions of ourselves, we can be enough, exactly as we are right now.

What if, to become more of who you are, you first must embrace that you are already enough?

The only thing that guarantees you will make a bad decision is if you make it for a bad reason.

If you want to make high-quality decisions, use high-quality values to guide you.

Where is a bad idea pulling you to make a bad decision?

When you find yourself wishing someone else would give you something or believing they should be a certain way, this is your mind letting you know how to help yourself.

Instead of thinking they should do something nice for you or they should forgive you, this is your signal for you to do something nice for you and for you to forgive you.

We can only be helped by others to the extent we are willing to help ourselves. Where is it time to turn the question to yourself?

If you want to be happy, you need to genuinely want to understand what other people are experiencing. This is the only way their upset will not upset you.

Or, the other option is not to need to understand at all. You will likely find that when you no longer “need” to understand, in the name of your inner peace, you will naturally understand from a higher level.

If you want to be happy, you must choose empathy, as it is the pathway to releasing the struggle for the unattainable control your mind seeks.

Where could you choose to understand or let go of needing to understand to find freedom?

We are learners, and life is a teacher. There is always a truth tugging at us or nudging us forward if we are willing to notice the sensations that tell us so.

Sometimes, the sensations feel like a warm hug, letting us know we are on the right track. Other times, they feel more like a heavy weight or a frantic unsettledness, letting us know there is something to resolve.

Either way, our nature is to grow, and we grow when we learn. We can harness the power of our design when we commit to learning the lesson that life is teaching us right now by listening and taking note.

What lesson is life lovingly trying to teach you right now?

We evolve into the next versions of ourselves when we forgive, let go, and learn.

Our lives and commitments become heavy when we see them as pre-determined, un-malleable, stagnant, or tarnished. This attachment to our past keep us from expanding, growing, and living lives full of wonder, creativity, and inspiration.

We are not our past- not in our relationships, careers, or anything else we have created. We are pure possibility if we are willing to let go of how it has been and take responsibility for how powerful we are.

What if to move forward, it is time to begin again?

Is what matters most.The preparation is what matters in showtime. You are always preparing for the moment that matters by who you are being right now.

Knowing what matters, what would you like to do when no one is watching? Will that help you be who you want to be when they are watching?

Means you never stop growing.

You don’t need to be the best in relation to someone else to win; you need to become the best version of you. If you continue to become better at being you and doing what you do, no one can compete with that anyway.

Just get better every day through learning every day. The rest will fall into place.

You already are enough. You already are doing enough. You don’t have anything to prove.

Instead of proving, you can focus on improving. So, while you are already doing enough, you might not be doing enough of the right thing to achieve the results you want.

Knowing you are enough, where have you not been doing enough of what will align you with what you want?